If you have seen my recent transformation, and said to yourself: “GIRL ARE YOU CRAZY?” or if you need some motivation or words of advice on your journey… Keep reading 🙂
OVERVIEW OF MY JOURNEY:
This was my first year and a half of being natural. All of 2014 I hid my hair because I was ashamed, lacked confidence, and didn’t know what to do with it.
As you can see, my hair FLOURISHED all the way to Summer 2015 (May 24 was my last length check before I colored/straightened). I wore it more once I got comfortable with it.
Then…I got a little cocky because people started to accept my hair more and natural was now the new trend (Still Summer 2015). I got this BEAUTIFUL silk press (just to show off my length and encourage others to go natural)!
Y’all I was FEELING myself!!! So of course, I proceeded to color my hair (after I said I never would. I was influenced! haha) This was October 2015 when I got BLEACHED highlights and colored them red!
My puff was HUGE & dry! Haha. This is when I started to love wash and go’s because my curl pattern was loosening up (I wanted it to at this point in time).
And two more color processes and two more blow outs later…My curl pattern went from this to this in a matter of 6 months. I was devastated. (Right picture is Jan-Feb 2016)
I will NEVER EVER in my life purposefully try to change my curl pattern again. Once you understand that your curl pattern is what God wanted you to have, your journey will be a lot smoother. Don’t watch videos of girls with a different hair type wishing your hair could be like theirs. I promise they probably wish they could get hair like yours too. Instead, learn your hair and what works for YOU so you can get the best experience with it. So please, be appreciative of your hair type/curl pattern because no one else on this Earth has YOUR hair. Changing my curl pattern was my biggest mistake in my journey.
I wasn’t retaining ANY length. My hair ended up being the same length for one full year because I kept having to trim. My ends were TIEEEEED!
This is almost a YEAR difference. Did y’all see how much my hair grew the first year of my journey??? My SHAVED head grew to the middle of my shoulder blades in one year! The next year, once I started coloring and heat damaging, I grew no more than 2 inches!
WHY I ENDED UP CUTTING MY HAIR OFF:
- My hair was DAMAGED…obviously. I can let the picture speak for itself. There was no reviving my hair. I tried and tried. My hair was shedding like crazy, curls were extremely limp, ends were brittle and weak…IT WAS TIME TO LET GO!
KEY #1 TO YOUR JOURNEY! Pay attention to your hair! If it is damaged, try to revive it! (Protein treatments if it needs strength, deep conditioning if it needs moisture, trimming if it is tangling, etc.!) But if you can’t revive it, CUT IT! If you lost your curl pattern, I’d highly recommend you’d cut it because its not ever gonna be the same again.
2. “ITS JUST HAIR!” Ladies I cannot stress this enough! Hair is an accessory, not a necessity. You should not be so dependent on hair to the point where you can’t feel confident without it. I’ve had every hairstyle, every color, and every length in the book. I can’t name how many times people think a certain style isn’t “for me” or won’t “match my color.” Yet, I have pulled off every style simply because of my confidence. I carry myself with my head high at ALL times. I quote this to all of my clients (especially the ones I want to go natural). Now that I have cut my hair, I embody this message. I was in LOVE with my hair, and I just up and cut it off….because ITS. JUST. HAIR.
KEY #2 TO YOUR JOURNEY! Health is always more important than length!!! Understand that your journey will not be perfect. It is okay to make mistakes! Just know how to handle them. It is okay to cut your hair, because hair WILL grow back! I had to take responsibility for my 6 month damage process!
3. BEAUTIFUL HAIR DOES NOT EQUAL LONG HAIR. This is a common misconception in today’s society that I wanted to address. When I told a few people I was thinking about cutting my hair, all I heard were things along the lines of: “your hair is too long to cut” “why would you cut all that long beautiful hair” “you might not be cute anymore without long hair”. STOOOOP with the foolishness!
KEY #3 TO YOUR JOURNEY! You will ALWAYS be beautiful! No matter the length, color, style, etc. of your hair. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Your hair does not define you! YOU define you.
4. TO BUILD MY CONFIDENCE, AND SOMEONE ELSE’S TOO!! When I first cut my hair off two years ago, I was so self-conscious and had such low self-esteem to the point where I hid my hair for a whole year. I couldn’t take the criticism. I got so much negative feedback and hurtful words from people I called my friends. But now I can say I’m glad to have experienced this because I have grown from it. I would not be the strong, confident woman I am today without this experience. NOBODY CAN TELL ME A DAMN THING ABOUT YASMINE!!!! I love inspiring people to step out of their comfort zone and try new things…this is how we grow as individuals and together as a community.
This was after I cut my hair the first time. I received comments such as: “You shouldn’t have done this.” “You look like Thelma from Good Times” “Okay grandma” “Im surprised your edges are laid”
I was so devastated. I cried, lost a lot of confidence, and hid my hair for a whole year. I don’t want anyone else to have to go through that.
KEY #4 TO YOUR JOURNEY! If the people surroudnding you are bringing you down once you cut your hair, you need to be around new people. You should receive a lot of support from your peers and family because cutting your hair/going natural is a very big step and requires a lot of courage. If you ever need any help, motivation, encouraging words, etc. just text/call/e-mail me and I will help you!! I have gone through it and I know it is not easy!
5. LIBERATION! I’m at the point in my life where I need to refresh, renew, and restart. I wanted to set myself free from a lot of things surrounding me. More negativity than I want has been entering my space lately. Cutting my hair was symbolic of letting go. Letting go of the things that were holding me back, the societal standards, people’s expectations, etc. I’ve never felt so free!
KEY #5 TO YOUR JOURNEY! There is nothing more liberating and rejuvenating`than cutting your hair! If you want to do it! Go ahead! I promise you won’t regret it!!! It’s so sexy and refreshing!
THIS IS MY OFFICIAL BEFORE AND AFTER!
Yes, I colored my hair again! Im only being adventurous! Haha. Im going to try a few colors and completely cut the color off before I begin to let my hair grow back.
A little advice on color: If you color your hair, please be careful. By careful, I mean don’t do it too often, treat it as much as you can, try to stray away from heat or any styles that can further damage your coils. I did 4 color processes and 3 heat styles in a matter of 6 moths. You should never do that if you want your curl pattern to remain the way it’s supposed to be.
Thank you for reading! And Youtube is your best friend!!! I hope you took something from this! Let me know what you all think! God Bless!!
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